questions of confusion from bi-racial cheldren


  • Reply doodiephoward 2016 at 9:19 AM

    I’m sorry to hear this separation of soul and mind from a person who is very bright n loving not to only your children but everyone you come in contact with you even thought me something about love without color ! Love DAD

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    • Reply Jen 2016 at 9:24 AM

      Wow, thank you dad. This means a lot…going to wipe my tears away now. [Happy]

  • Reply Karissa 2017 at 8:51 AM

    Thanks for sharing your heart! What are some of the steps you are taking with your kiddos to help them process all that is going on? My babies are bi-racial as well but are still little (2 and 10 months). Also have you written anything else about race, specifically embracing diversity and unity in the church? I’d love to hear more of your thoughts!

    • Reply 2017 at 10:57 AM

      Karissa, I think after all that we’ve sheltered them from (but ended up slipping through anyway) the best thing we’ve given them is the word “bi-racial”. Before they had this word I didn’t realize they were straddling the fence trying not to lean one way or the other. Now, they understand that there is an actual space for them. We get so caught up in trying not to label people because it’s kind of the word of the day in society today, but the fact is that society can be very divisive itself. Everyone needs to feel like there is a space that they fit into, that they’re not alone, that there are others just like them. We took time to show them pictures of mixed race couples, and all the beautiful bi-racial children that have been created by love. As far as our church, we belong to one that is so diverse and mixed race is very common (all races and ethnicity). I think When my son is in church, he feels like it’s a safe space. Sadly, it’s when he goes out into the world that he leaves the shelter and his “normalcy” behind. For all the advances society thinks it’s made, it feels more like it’s just muffled & agitated itself. My husband and I have become more bold in teaching their heritage to them. We want them to understand the differences that our cultures have, but also that Love and God doesn’t see those differences. It’s also been an opportunity to teach the kids to love & accept themselves, because there will always be someone who’ll come along and try to knock them down. I know this is a long response, but you’re question has really inspired me. Thank you so much for your engagement. I haven’t wrote about this topic again, but you’ve sparked something in me. I’m so grateful that you stopped by, thank you.

      • Reply Karissa 2017 at 11:18 AM

        Thanks for your response! It is very helpful and Yeah, you should definitely write a post about it! You have a lot of great things to say about the subject!

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