Are “Happy Christians” really happy…or faking it?
You know, I chose to step into the life God laid out for me. I’ve grown so much and learned of a love that’s so different from anything I’ve experienced before, no regrets at all.
It’s also opened me up to a lot of scrutiny and the realization that there’s a misunderstanding about us “fake, happy, Christian phonies” as I’ve heard it said. First, the truth is we actually are happy, it’s not an act. Second, the reality is, yes there are two different sides to life and I’m pretty sure this holds true, for everyone-Christian or not. However, folks think we all act like life’s all rainbows and sprinkles because we want to seem better than others, or act like we’ve got it all together.
What it’s really like
So let me fill you in. I often I have to swallow my pride, and stifle my words. There are times I don’t want to say nice things, I don’t want to be kind, and I do want to release all my frustrations on a good solid scream! There’s days when I just want to crawl inside of myself wallow in my anger, stress, or sadness and push the world away. But I know God has a different purpose for me. So I have to shake it off, or at least push through long enough to persuade myself to have a better attitude. I have struggles too, I fight battles. The difference is that I have faith that tells me everything I do has a purpose. The Word assures me that God has plans to prosper me and not harm me, that there are lessons to be learned, even in my weakness. If I believe the Word, and I do, then how can I walk around fretting about every trial that comes my way? What would that say to you about my faith and trust in God? I also believe that God wants to use my walk to encourage others. I close the door to growth and connection with others when I let my negative attitude take the lead.
It’s not fake, it’s not easy, but I choose it everyday
Some will say it’s normal to have these feelings. And while I agree, I don’t think there is any good that comes from spite, hate, or making others feel bad because I want to release. I lay these feelings at His feet, and behind closed doors I’ve often asked God to change me through gritted teeth, not because I really felt it in that moment, but because I knew it was the right thing to ask. He honored my request, even if it was half-hearted. I deal with things differently than you, but in no way am I trying to be better than you or act like I don’t have issues at all. The way I outwardly express my growth it is the evidence of God working in me; it’s the visual result of my connection with God, it’s not me tying to be fake or acting like I’ve got it all together. I’m jut trying to live a life that honors God, even when it’s difficult. Just know this, we too stumble everyday, but we choose to get up, dust ourselves off, and try again.
So, what’s my point?
While you might think we walk around in La-La land, pretending like we don’t struggle, just know that we may be dealing with our issues in a different way than you, so when we step out the door, we don’t have our walls up shutting down possible connections. We’re putting ourselves aside for a moment so we can let you in. We’re not trying to push you away with our “fake”, we’re trying to give a glimpse of our real!
Lastly, that we are content, even in our weakness because of God’s grace. We know that God will help us through any difficulties we face. So we rest in Him, knowing that all things work together for His will. So, now that you know we’re not mindless zombies or phonies, you should also know this life is awesome and any challenges that come our way is so worth a life lived with God.
I’m aware that my point of view may not hold true for all Christians. I know people from many different walks of life that are going around faking it, but I pray you know there are loads of us doing the best we can for God. Most of us are just trying to live in an honest, useful way. And hey, if you still think I’m (we’re) being fake, then I challenge you to do it better. That’ll show em’!