10 "Old School" lessons my children will be learning
Beyond the obvious please and thank you, we instill some lessons that may seem “old school” in an ever “progressing” world. Like handshakes, lady like and gentlemanly behavior. Hold the door, ladies first, crossed legs, and modesty. People have told us, “their just kids”, well guess what, one day they won’t be. Some lessons take so long to learn, and are met with such resistance that they need to start practicing them now. They need to grow up with it woven into their fibers; with the understanding of this is just how it goes.
So here we go…
So, I get it. This might seem like something they won’t understand, but they do! They have bank accounts with deposit cards, and monthly statements. And when they see the mail with the bank logo on it, they’re stoked! They ask how much they have, and even do the math to find out if there’s been an increase. Also, they have to earn their money, not just have it handed to them. They’ll also be learning the restraint it takes to save, and that research should go into what they choose to purchase. How to budget, invest, and tithe their money effectively.
2. Clean your room and you’re not getting paid for it.
This is our house that we all live in it and we should all take part in keeping it clean. Have respect for your surroundings; don’t live like animals, living in barns, and all that other mom talk!
3. Yes and No, not “yeah”
My other in law had to clue me in on this. I didn’t see anything wrong with it, but now I realize it’s a respect issue. I get it, I use it too, but there’s a time for “yeah” and when I’m speaking to you about serious stuff, is not that time. You talk to your friends like that, not us.
4. No asking “why”
Don’t ask me why. I told you to do something, I’m your mom you should trust me. I know what I’m doing, and I’m not out to hurt you. Failing you has never been my intention. My goal is to improve you make you better and functional in society. “Why” is a reasonable question, just not when I’m giving you instruction. After so many times of having to explain this one, I hit them with “because I’m your mom, and I said so”.
5. Look us in the eyes when we’re talking to you
Don’t even dare look up into the air, nothing’s up there but trouble, kid. When I’m speaking you, stop! You don’t turn around and walk away. Whatever you’re doing, stop and look at us. Give us your attention so we know what we’re saying at least has a fighting chance of sinking in.
6. “I don’t like that” about food that I put on the table
Then walk away and you get nothing. And I will be showing you a picture of starving children! Never turn your nose up at our blessings.
7. “That’s not fair”
My kids were saying this all the time, and my constant response is “Oh, you wanna play fair”? Just asking this question confuses them into a “no?” response. If they want to play fair, then Autumn gets 5 years of us paying attention to only her, because that’s what Aden got before she came along. Playing fair means that if someone has to loose dessert then everyone loses dessert. You wanna play fair?! The world isn’t fair. You’re welcome, one more lesson you won’t have to learn the hard way.
8. (Speaking of desserts) If you complain about brushing your teeth then you don’t need to be eating sweets
If you want to complain about cleaning your teeth so sugar don’t melt holes into them, they we’ll just avoid it altogether (Period)!
9. Don’t suck your teeth
OK, I can’t stand this one. I can remember when I was younger and did this, and let me tell you, the results weren’t pleasant! Right now, they use it casually in conversation, as if it were a word in the dictionary. I shut it down! Because if they get used to working into conversation like it was a verb, then it’s gonna be harder to break the habit.
10. You’re gonna put some clothes on
So, this one’s for when they’re a bit older. I mention this one because everywhere we turn, my husband and I are seeing little girls with their shorts (if that’s what you want to call them) barely there, and the boys walking around with no shirts on. What is this madness? Sorry, but I don’t care what the trend is, you’re gonna be putting some clothes on! I’m not comfortable with my kids getting used to letting so much of their body hang out for all to stare at. No sir, not here, not ever!
We’re not militant, there’s still some of these things happening in our home (not #10-never #10), but we’re working on it. However, these are the standards. We’re trying to teach them, help them understand the “why” of our rules. If they understand why, then it’s more likely they’ll start to think of cause and effect (I hope). This list is just going to get longer. Not because I want to limit everything they do, but because (Lord willing) they’ll mature out of these and need an entirely new set of expectations. So share with me. What are some of the staple rules in your home?
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