teaching biracial children acceptance & fitting in

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  • Reply Theresa Bailey October 18, 2017 at 7:55 AM

    What a wonderful message you are sending to them to stand out and be themselves. I feel like it is harder than ever for kids to feel comfortable, but the more we teach them that loving themselves is important the easier it will be. It starts there.

    • Reply Jen E. October 20, 2017 at 9:36 AM

      Absolutely, I feel like we only have a few years to get in there and lay some foundation truth before T.V. and other sources skew their ideas about what love is. I do pray they love who they were created to be…because of who their Creator is.

  • Reply Helen Little October 18, 2017 at 8:09 AM

    As humans we focus so much on our differences rather than our similarities. You’re doing an amazing job with your children!

    • Reply Jen E. October 20, 2017 at 9:36 AM

      I completely agree with you Helen. Our focus needs to shift to REAL priorities.

  • Reply Jen October 18, 2017 at 8:50 AM

    You are a rockstar sending your little ones a beautiful message. They will grow to be confident and kind!

    • Reply Jen E. October 20, 2017 at 9:37 AM

      Oh, thank you Jen. I sure pray they’ll be all God intended them to be!

  • Reply Kristi October 18, 2017 at 9:14 AM

    It’s great that you are being proactive with this. It’s so important to teach our kids that they are a gift from God and should feel comfortable with that buy also how to navigate the feelings of “standing out.” Especially as Christians, we will stand out in a world that right now does not like it so using everything we can to teach our kids confidence and courage is important.

    • Reply Jen E. October 20, 2017 at 9:40 AM

      Yeah, I feel like it’s most important to stand first and foremost as a Christian. To me it seems like that part of their (our) identity is attacked more than any other.

  • Reply Laura @ The Mindful Mom Blographer October 18, 2017 at 12:09 PM

    Thank you for this post. My son is biracial, and I have been thinking about how to start teaching him early that we are all different, and that is OK. He responds really well to books, and so we have been reading books with kids of different ethnicities, and also reading books like Daniel Tiger who talk about differences and how they are normal and OK. Thank you for sharing your tips. They are extremely helpful.

    • Reply Jen E. October 20, 2017 at 9:46 AM

      Oh Laura, you’re so welcome. Just keep him (and all of your family) involved in a community of people who are open and willing to embrace differences. When you see a kid in a wheelchair, notice his really neat set cover or how he handles it like a pro (…just examples). When you see mixed race couples, point out their neat shoes, or super fast running rather than bringing the focus to their skin. What I mean to say is kids will notice (just as we all do) the obvious, but show them that there is more to a person than what they look like. Keep loving with all your heart, praying about everything and you’ll continue to do an awesome job!

  • Reply Kristin Cook October 18, 2017 at 5:10 PM

    Gosh, I love this sooooo much! God is so good and no matter what racial tensions come, kids learning their worth in the eyes of God is the most important truth they can ever learn. The last line of this post is soooooo good! I sent it to my bestie for her future, biracial kiddos.

    • Reply Jen E. October 20, 2017 at 9:59 AM

      Amen, Kristin. With so many images that come into our sight, we need to remember to be proactive in locking arms with brothers and sisters for change, rather than being pitted against one another. We need to rise up as Christians first, and stop focus us things that will surely divide us. Thank you so much for sharing this, I truly hope these word can help bring some clarity.

  • Reply Carri October 18, 2017 at 7:34 PM

    Standing in their identity as children of God. Something each one of us can teach our children. Thank you!

    • Reply Jen E. October 20, 2017 at 10:00 AM

      Yes, Carri, there’s a foundational truth that get’s covered when we bicker about such things as the color of one’s skin.

  • Reply Katie October 18, 2017 at 7:55 PM

    I’m Asian-American, and I didn’t realize how much that affected my social life a few years ago. I wasn’t “Asian enough” to get along with other Asians, or even my Asian extended family. My mother was “raised American” in a separate household from the rest of her family, and so we are treated as outsiders because we have no understanding of the culture. On the flip side, despite the fact that I was raised fully in “American culture,” the stereotypes surrounding how I looked alienated me from other Caucasian kids. I was ridiculed a lot for Asian stereotypes that didn’t even apply to me. I truly believe that, by raising your children to be aware of what makes them different while being proud of what makes them an individual, you’re giving them an amazing gift. I wish I’d learned this lesson a long time ago.

    • Reply Jen E. October 20, 2017 at 10:40 AM

      Katie, thank you so much for sharing this. I think sometimes, people don’t feel good about themselves, so when they say “you’re” not “enough” of something, what they’re really feeling is some confused version of being rejected. So they take this “rejection” from you and slap a label on YOU or ridicule you in an effort to boost themselves up. I pray you now know how truly unique you are and that every part of you is loved by God!

  • Reply Brittany Ferrell October 18, 2017 at 8:43 PM

    I love that you are teaching your children these important life lessons now. They will grow to be comfortable in their skins and bodies and feel amazing just being their unique little beings. When they have this confidence, it will not matter what judgments they may receive from others. Being unique is what makes us all special, but as you mentioned, this is a hard concept to learn when you are a kid and just want to be like your friends in every way. But these lessons are the ones that stay in your heart forever.

    • Reply Jen E. October 20, 2017 at 10:45 AM

      When people judge without even knowing someone, it’s total deflection! how can you make an assumption about a person based off their appearance? I spoke with my son about this post and his response was “everyone I know is biracial”. The wonderful part about his comments is that is was inaccurate. In his eyes everyone is from different cultures or races, so we’re ALL DIFFERENT! Oh my heart…he gets it!!

  • Reply Tanvi Rastogi October 18, 2017 at 9:14 PM

    That is such an important life lessons. World form their eyes must be quite different and it is nice to help them navigate it early on.

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    • Reply Jen E. October 20, 2017 at 11:13 AM

      It really is different for them. A little more than I thought it would be, but honestly (and thank God) not more than I can handle at this point.

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