Being nice don’t always come with rewards
Or at least not in the way my son was hoping.
While stopped at a gas station, my son saw a man that he felt was in need. So, with his tender heart, he offered the man some of his lunch. However, for whatever reason, the man wasn’t in the mood to accept this offer, so he turned away Aden’s gesture.
Never wanting to miss an opportunity to teach my kids, I used this. I explained that not everybody’s in the right place to receive the kindness you’re handing out. It doesn’t mean that they won’t be willing at some other point, but you just happen to cross them when they weren’t ready. Also, there will be times when we try to hand out our lunches, (or our faith) and it’ll be thrown back at us. What then? Should we stop pressing on? No, Way!
I feel like often times we’re stumbled when someone rejects us, and because we feel embarrassed, we tell ourselves to keep quiet next time . Our feelings of humiliation prevent us from being bold and blessing others who may be willing, and waiting to receive us. Just so we’re clear, this isn’t just about handing out food or money to someone we come across on the street. This is everyday; people who need encouragement, kindness, love and acceptance.
So what should we do if people turn us down? How can we still help? Well, here’s the lessons I tried teaching from this:
- Pray that God would guide hearts to be open and willing to accept help
Philippians 4:19 And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.
- Pray that they would make progress in whatever it is they’re doing to establish themselves
Isaiah 41:10 Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand
- Pray for the heart of those who are around this person to never give up on them
Romans 15:30 I appeal to you, brothers, by our Lord Jesus Christ and by the love of the Spirit, to strive together with me in your prayers to God on my behalf
- Pray that we would always have a tender heart willing to put ourselves up against our fears to do what we know is right
Hebrews 13:16 Do not neglect to do good and to share what you have, for such sacrifices are pleasing to God
- Pray that we would never do things for our own glory
Philippians 2:3-4 Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others
- Pray that we would always be willing to share our blessings with those around us who are in need
Deuteronomy 16:17 Every man shall give as he is able, according to the blessing of the Lord your God that he has given you
I can honestly say that I’m thankful for this experience. I had the chance to teach something to my son in real time-before feelings of rejection or confusion could set it and stifle his desire to put himself on the line again. Aden learned that although we may give out our kindness eagerly and with joy, it might have no reward. Even if all we were looking for was just the honest feeling of knowing you’ve done something helpful. This feeling may have to come by knowing that when we pray, we’re still doing good. Also, we shouldn’t let rejection squash our desire to give kindness or turn us away from God’s plan to use us next time.