Does the company you keep reflect your growth
Does your company & your speech reflect your growth? Do the words you choose point others to Christ, represent your new-ness, or reflect a change in you? Your speech needs to line up with your new character.
Sometimes it’s hard to take a firm stand, especially when you’re newly saved. It seems like people around you are already looking for ways to push you out of their social crowd. Last thing you want to do is give them a reason to think you’re fanatical or holier-than-thou by refusing to take part in their jokes, gossip, or chatter about topics that don’t line up with the Holy Spirit now within you. Maybe you’re not even sure where you fit in now, and are unsure as to how to separate yourself. But let’s get something out on the table before we even begin: You’re changed, not the same, different now, and there’s not much the “new you” can do to make the “same them” accept you if they’ve already made up their mind about you. Here are two points to consider when you find yourself in a crowd of gossip or foul language.
It’s okay to walk away
I’m mean really, there has to be a subject of conversation that would have offended you pre-salvation, right? Well, what would you have done then? Find comfort in knowing that we’ve all had to deal with the uncomfortable “oh, what’s that? I hear someone calling me” exit maneuver until we became more confident in saying “PEACE, I’m out!” Don’t worry, by then everyone will be used to you excusing yourself from conversations that don’t reflect your values. We were not created to please everyone around us. Also, Jesus warned us this would happen, so this is truly nothing new you’re experiencing.
John 15:18 “If the world hates you, you know that it hated Me before it hated you
Who are you putting first
Fear was one of the reasons I used to stick around. What would people think about me, what would they think about the God I claimed to love? Is walking away from this conversation going to make people feel silently condemned?
Girls, we don’t need to obligate ourselves to laughter-making others feel comfortable, or our time-making others feel worthy. We do, however, have an obligation to be salt and light in a bland and dark world. Our speech should edify, and lead people to truth. We can shine light on the darkness even by simply walking away from a conversation. In the turning of our heels in the opposite direction, we can show people that maybe they need to pause and examine their words before speaking.
2 Colossians 6:14 Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?
I know, we feel bad. But what we really need to do is decide once and for all who we’re comfortable offending, and who we choose to stand for. I’m really hoping that even through the embarrassment, you’re choosing to stand for God. Standing for God doesn’t mean you have to make a big speech before you leave so everyone knows what you’re doing and how you’re offended. Sometimes it’s as simple as a quiet turn as you slowly exit stage left.